Seeking your inner warrior
Seeking your inner warrior
Life has a special way of teaching each of us what we are capable of, even the easiest destiny is laced with lessons, the choice is ours, are we able to decode the lessons, or are we so immersed in what is happening to us that we lose sight of the fact that, things may be happening for us. This article is a collection of my thoughts to help us understand grief, experience its magic, and elevate to a place where you foster joy through your pain and optimize your life’s potential. The storm of grief breaks the door down on its way in, it leaves no room for process or action. It does not care for your feelings, it is the only truth in the moment, loss, peril and an empty chested sigh of pain. Grief consumes us but if you break down the emotion, the onset of grief is caused by the shattering of ones own expectations, a disruption to what we consider to be a state of happiness. If the first moment of grief can be lived in slow motion, you will realize that the grief is felt less for the stimulus that provokes the emotion of grief, and more for what each person interprets as a loss for themselves. As an example, when you lose someone you love, grief is caused by having to adjust to the loss of the person, and not on behalf of the person who has completed their life cycle. We place ourselves central to the event and therefore immerse ourselves inside the grief continuum. For those that believe in the greater cosmic plan, grief brings lessons that enable a reset. Invariably, these lessons enabled by grief provoke emotions that are packed deeply until moments of grief force us to unpack these emotions that change the tapestry of our life. I believe, there are two types of people, those that respond as a victim to their grief, and those that are the warriors against their grief. The path to optimization from a place of grief is determined by who you choose to be, a victim to your grief or a warrior for joy
The Victim:
In most cases the victims are those that have not self-nourished for one reason or another and they are not validated for their own standards but standards that have been set for them, sometimes by their environments. Cultural influences and family values also determine how your mind processes grief. The victim mindset is unable to elevate from the depression and detachment phase of grief. As a victim, time will stand still when grief hits you, a blended reality of what was, and what will never again be, are central to how you perceive your life from then on. There are moments of hope that break through however they are overridden by the loss that your victim mind remains trapped inside. Everything from that moment on becomes a state of lull that remains linked to the happiness of your unity with another being, and thereby your loss.
The Warrior:
The warrior mindset get into protection mode; these individuals tend to hunker down in pain. They refuse to accept defeat to the emotional upheaval, all the while manifesting resilience to slow down the impact of the sadness that has broken the door down. The warrior accepts their grief and engages in the 5 stages of grief, [Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance(1) ]. The warrior employs self-soothing and start to see past the blindness of grief. The mind splits its emotional baggage, to give warriors the relief and respite to find a stillness that calms their tortured mind. Warriors plant the seeds for a different tomorrow that does not center around their loss, however, their perspective is nourished by their loss. They become acutely grateful for what they have instead of focused on what they have lost. Their mind allows them to sustain a multi-emotional reality. The pivotal message is that you can go from being a victim to becoming a warrior. If you are a victim, you will set into motion a life path alteration that remains tightly knit to your pain. As a warrior, you will employ your perspective gained from a healthy engagement with your grief to optimize future outcomes.
Victims and Warriors are both fighting the same emotions, only one creates a crutch to justify stagnation, while the others builds a stairway to an expanded perspective. The most important point to take away from this is, you get to make a choice in how you react. When you are able to realize that your life in unfolding in front of you, an objectivity will come into view that will create a healthy appreciation for things happening for you rather than to you. A mind that resigns, will process grief and be open to using the strength that comes through in the times of pain to help fuel their freedom from the pain, carrying lessons into the sunrise, evolved from the pain and yet so appreciative of the onward life opportunity.
Please find below a link to a recent Podcast on Life Coach Radio Network where I was invited as a guest by Frank Maduri and the topic of conversation was "Rising from Grief".
Please find below a link to a recent Podcast on Life Coach Radio Network where I was invited as a guest by Frank Maduri and the topic of conversation was "Rising from Grief".
(1) – Kubler-Ross grief cycle.
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